Playdate
A playful card deck for curious couples.
100+ cheeky prompts
Real connection, designed with therapists
Easy to bring anywhere
Permission to play without pressureDescription
A great sex life isn’t just about sex — it’s about connection. The banter that makes you feel electric, saying that compliment out loud, feeling sexy and understood at the same time. That's where Playdate comes in: a card deck with 100+ cheeky prompts designed to ease partners into a playful and flirty headspace.
Equal parts deep, spicy, and silly, Playdate keeps curiosity (and chemistry) alive, one question at a time. Grab a card and see where it takes you — breakfast, bedtime, or anywhere in between.
Based on research-backed relationship models and developed with guidance from sex + relationship therapists, Playdate encourages you to connect in ways that make everyday moments feel like magic.
Details
Includes:
- 100 cards with questions and interactive activities ranging from silly, to serious, to spicy
- Anecdotes and example answers in case you're at a loss for words, feel like your answer might be too weird, or just want to see how other people think!
- Instructions right on the box—no risk of a lost instruction manual here :)
Dimensions:
- 3.75" long x 2.25" wide x 2.5" deep
Sustainability:
- Produced in Michigan using vegetable-based inks on Forest Stewardship Council (FSC) compliant paper
Shipping & Returns
- Enjoy free US shipping on orders over $50 in delightfully discreet packaging.
- Not satisfied with your purchase? Contact us within 30 days. We're here to help!
Get Playful
One card a day, or the whole deck at once—play anywhere or any way you see fit. Connection doesn't require perfection :)
Take Turns
Each of you can answer each prompt. But no fear! Plenty of cards include examples and anecdotes to help if you feel a little stuck
Keep An Open Mind
It's okay if a prompt feels tricky or super silly—that's by design! Do your best and know you can skip any card at any time
The Science Behind Playdate
More than your typical conversation card deck, Playdate's prompts are based in the psychology behind desire and lasting romantic connection.
The Dual Control Model
Most of us were taught that our libido is a set personality trait—some of us are just seemingly born to want sex more than others. But what if we told you it was more complicated than that? Enter: the dual control model of sexual response, a popular framework for understanding arousal in terms of gas (what gets us going) and brakes (what keeps us from feeling aroused).¹
Playdate includes prompts that help you and your partner understand:
- What each others’ accelerators and brakes are
- How to press on the gas
- How to lay off the brakes
Because we know this is a promising avenue for increasing sexual functioning and satisfaction²
Bids for Connection
Bids for connection are small, everyday attempts to connect positively. It can be anything from talking about your day, to asking your partner to get something extra from the store, to pointing at a cool bird outside the window. And partners can either turn towards these bids (engage in the conversation, pick that item up from the store, look at the bird), or turn away (look at their phone instead of talking, forget the item from the store, not look out the window).
Many relationship counselors and researchers believe partners in positive relationships not only notice these bids, but engage with each other enthusiastically. The idea is partners who bid often and turn towards each other readily will have more satisfying relationships that can more easily weather hardships.³
So, what does that have to do with sex? And what does that have to do with Playdate?
Well, Playdate is great practice for making and turning towards those bids for connection! And sure, the quality and frequency of sex is important for sexual satisfaction, but so is relationship satisfaction.⁴
Love Maps
It may not seem connected, but having satisfying sex can be related to how well you understand your partner’s inner world and what matters to them (sexually or otherwise)! A love map is a repository of information you know about your partner—their passions, their fears, their favorite movies, the name of their childhood best friend, etc.⁵
Playdate invites you to ask questions that build your love map and help you flex your curiosity muscle so you continue striving to understand your partner long after you’ve put the cards away.
The Importance of Play
Try It Yourself!
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